All you need to know about relationships and more.......

I'll start by saying: No man or woman should make you feel that you can't live without them in your life.

It is in the hobbies of many people to step out of a relationship with the slightest opportunity, just to make you feel bad about yourself,and beg them to come back.
Here are some questions you need to proffer answers to........
1. Did I offend this/that fellow?
Well I'll say that there are some set of people that keep to themselves to a fault,these set of people make Friends or even enter into a relationship but will zap out of such a friendship or relationship when they see the other party doing things that they detest. these set of people won't even tell you anything or tell you your wrongs,they will just zap out of the relationship.
In such a case, what you must do is to go to them and ask them what you did wrong,and they might in turn tell you and reconciliation can be made.

2. How has my life been,ever since I met him/her?
To be honest. We humans go into relationships most of the time because of what we will gain. Therefore you need to find out if this person has been a plus to you or not,if yes then you can't in a way do without him/her. You need to reconcile with him/her.

*THIS MAKES NO SENSE TO ME:
Well this may not make sense to you but know this; that no person comes to you in life by coincidence, everything was pre-arranged by God.  everyone that comes into your life was programmed to teach you some lessons or take you to another level in your life and often times when their purpose is served,they move on.

*ARE YOU SAYING THAT WE CANNOT HAVE A FRIEND FOR LIFE OR EVEN MAINTAIN A LIFETIME RELATIONSHIP?:
Well that is one big question,but the answer is not far fetched. You see,a relationship is a mutual kind of commitment which demands that the parties involved play their roles/parts effectively. This simply connotes that a relationship will only last as long as you want it to.

*PLEASE MAKE ME UNDERSTAND, I'M LOST:
Don't be lost my friend. A relationship can last for as long as you want it to so long as you can bear the pain.
So many relationships suffer today because the parties involved fail to bear the pain and endure all that that relationship throw at them. A saying goes.... "NO PAIN NO GAIN".

*ARE YOU SAYING THAT RELATIONSHIPS ARE MEANT TO BE ENDURED AND NOT ENJOYED?:
No, I'm not saying that at all, what I mean is; In relationships, you get what you give, it's a give and take thing. what you give in is what you take out. And relationships are influenced by external forces like friends and colleagues.
 Some times the other party with which you are in a relationship with may begin to misbehave. now you can't say that it's his fault, he must have been influenced by some external forces out there,and at this point,you can't just say that you want to get out of such a relationship. You need to endure at this point. Understand that relationships are not always enjoyed,as a matter of fact,what makes is sweet is the ups and downs that comes with it.

*BUT THEY SAY...."ONCE YOU GO BLACK, YOU NEVER GO BACK"
I knew that that question was gonna come up. "now that he/she is been influenced outside,will he/she ever return to the way we were before?" this and more of such questions may be running through your mind right now. The answer is.... That person can change to become even better than he/she used to be provided you pay the price.
you need to pay the price on your knees. Any relationship that is not founded on God the founder of it,is going to crash with both parties in it.

Note: You can make the difference by praying for your relationship and working on yourself for a better relationship.

 Thanks for your time.