Hello everyone!
It's another edition of ask the world,and today is all about marriage.... Marriage..... Marriage.
Christopher is a young man who is ripe for marriage, but lacks the money for it. His fiancee told him that she can give him the money for the wedding so they can get married right away.
At this point; Christopher is confused, he wants to hear your own opinion whether or not to collect the money from her.
Let's all help this guy out by contributing.
Your contributions will go a long way.
What really matters is the character of the lady in question
ReplyDeleteYou might end up collecting the money and getting married to her and she will begin to feel as if she's the boss or something.
My advice is that you watch the lady's character, at least by now you should be able to know the kind of lady you have been dating.
I don't think that is cool cos not for the wedding ceremony only, a man should have a level of financial stability before thinking of marriage, if he can't pay to marry her then how sure is it that he will take care of her
ReplyDeleteMr Laboy.
DeleteHe is self employed and has a steady stream of income, but he hasn't accumulated enough to marry her, and she's suggesting that she give him the money for the wedding, saying that time is not on their side
Marriage shouldn't be rush into, not for any reason. cos it a life time event, if he has a stable job then he should wait when he is able to settle the bills, remember one of the aim of paying bride price and other marriage financial commitment is not that the lady is sold but to show that a man is capable to provide for his family... Allowing the woman to do that is selling his birth right and he can't be the bread winner, the only option I feel is to do a small occasion not elaborate at least what he can afford at that time. Marriage mustn't be all about crowd
DeleteMr Laboy
DeleteThis is very true.
But I think the lady can as well contribute for the wedding. It all boils down to understanding.
There are even married women that are doing well financially than their own husbands, and these women are still loyal and submissive to their husbands.
So I think I can give my fiance money to marry me cos I don't see it as anything wrong.
And more so I'll love and respect my husband so long as I live regardless of his financial stamina.
Remember...."all fingers are not equal"
Phoebe, good point but let get something straight, there is a big difference between supporting your fiancé and giving him money to marry u... If for example he is to spend 10k and u gave him 2k that support but when u give 9k and he pays 1k that is, u marrying the man. It not the function of the wife earning more than the man that a different case... The question say... She will give me money to marry not she will support me. In most culture I know of the woman and her family also have their financial contribution in marriage which is reasonable but not paying the man to marry their daughter. It is called bride price not groom price and also he should look for other source of getting money not the gal abeg
DeleteLaboy
DeleteMy question for you is.....
For how long will you wait or gather money before you marry her if you are to be the man in question?
Good question, when I want to marry a lady, the family will of course give me a list of requirement which most times it subject to negotiations, am not an island that suddenly wants to get married,I could get aids from other people and of course am working so from my savings.. A year isn't much to plan or max two. If I can do that within this period then am jobless and why would I want to marry without a job
DeleteMy dear I don't from what angle u are looking at it ooo but if am ready for marriage I start to plan and that include saving even before I go see her parents and when I get the list, one year or two is enough to plan except the family want to sell the gal or she wants an elaborate Party which if it me I can't kill my self cos of that and hey I have friends, family etc where I can get aid am not a island all on my own, that means there could be aids. It not ego but I can let my woman give me money to marry her. Haba let not do wrong things all in the name of civilization.
DeleteHello bro
ReplyDeleteThe moment you collect that money you lose your worth as a man
Don't do it
Wait until you get
She should not rush you
I concur!!!
DeleteAny lady that won't accept to marry me with the little I have does not deserve me!
And I will not trade my place of honor because of marriage
Why are ladies rushing guys into marriage this days. I really don't understand. Please can someone help make me understand. I'm confused!!!
ReplyDeleteI don't mean to brag ma'am but the truth remains that good guys are expensive in the men's market and any wise lady would want to make haste to marry any descent man see comes across. That's just the way it is.
DeleteIt will even get worse; a time where ladies will even propose to man. A time will also come when many ladies will fight because of a single man.
I rest my case